What Makes Sense?

My friend Caitlin and I shared the same amusement and absolute confusion of the "ghetto" black gay. You see a seemingly straight black guy; he's wearing low slung jeans, high tops sneakers, a black tall T, and a fitted cap, then he walks pass and to your horror he shrieks, "Guuuuuuurl, you betta WERK!!!!" um, I'm confused!!!! We judge books heavily by their cover and rightfully so. As I get dressed in the morning, I'm always making sure I am a clear representation of myself and I can't be the only one doing this. I want the message to be clear, so I always make sure I'm sending out the right signals. I know this girl who quite often changes her group of friends then all of sudden she's someone else. I was told in high school she was a coach bag carrying princess. When I met her, she was hipster hippy flower child and oddly enough now she's in a leather jacket, a black liquid one piece with some giant heels (hot)...I understand growth but this chameleon concept makes my head spin.

With that said! What is the message if someone represents themselves as something they are not? Are we lend to believe that style and appearance actually do mean nothing? Are people purposely misrepresenting themselves to feel normal or are we all just confused as to who we are? What makes sense?